REALITY OR FANTASY

‘It is better to be hurt by truth than to live happily in lies.’

We often hear this saying, or at least, a variant of it.  This statement implies that you should be better off living your life with knowledge of the ‘truth’ than wasting your time over this earth listening to ‘lies’.  To go simply, it means that ‘DON’T GO ON LIVING YOUR HAPPY FANTASIES.’

However, is this really good?  Should we know the ‘truth’, no matter how bitter it is, than to be happy for the rest of our lives?  The answer depends on the person.

As you know, I believe that every ‘individual’ is really an individual.  Take note of that word, for ‘INDIVIDUAL’ means a single entity or person—not having an identical.  What I’m saying is you are you; another character’s personality is not you.  His family is not yours.  His life experiences, though the events may be the same, is still never YOUR life experiences, simply by the fact that he deals with it differently than you.

If you choose to know the ‘truth’, then it is your choice.  However, you should also know that the ‘truth’ or what others call ‘reality’, and its opposite ‘lies’ or ‘fantasy’, DEPENDS ON THE PERCEPTION OF LIFE BY AN INDIVIDUAL.  This simply means that if someone thinks that life is not worth living, then what he also perceives as his ‘reality’ is dreary and miserable.  Don’t be surprised if he believes that his life is the worst that one could ever experience.  On the other hand, someone who thinks that life is a happy existence believes that ‘reality’ is a joyful adventure.

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW THE ‘TRUTH’ OR ‘REALITY’, YOU’RE ONLY SEARCHING IN VAIN.  For there can’t be an absolute ‘truth’.  What we perceive as ‘truth’ is also brought by our minds, which we don’t know exactly whether its product is ‘real’ or not.  To further illustrate it, people who have ‘schizophrenia’ think that their world is real, while we who know better are sure that theirs is just a product of their minds.  The same can be said with people who thinks that they are lucky, or unlucky.

The question remains, ‘Is it really better to know the ‘truth’?’

To answer that, let me state first that every human walking or had walked over this planet have the so-called ‘Defense Mechanisms’.  Defense Mechanisms are the way we adapt or deal with troublesome situations we come across in life.  Question is, is it bad?  My answer is ‘no’.  It is only natural for living things to have that trait, for if we removed those mechanisms in our body, are we 100% sure that we’re going to live sanely for the rest of our lives?

The question ‘Is it really better to know the ‘truth’?’, can also be answered with:  ‘HOW SURE ARE YOU THAT YOU CAN HANDLE THE ‘TRUTH’ WELL?’ 

Many of us who wanted to know what most ‘intelligent’ people on earth perceives as ‘truth’, they end up vain and bitter after coming into a conclusion.  That is because, for most ‘intelligent’ people, life is as miserable as death.  They are like the sons and daughters of Misery.  In turn, they influence others who don’t think like them.  Those ‘others’ let themselves be influenced by these ‘intelligent’ people who think negatively.  Are we sure we like that?  Are you sure that once you have come into that kind of conclusion about reality YOU ALONE CAN HANDLE THAT?

That is because most of those kinds of people would surely affect their fellow individuals on how negative they think.  And as I said before, these ‘fellow individuals’ may or may not be able to handle the truth ‘intelligent’ people believe in.  In the end, they may become miserable and might even go beyond the ‘normal means’ to escape that.  Well, his blood is in that ‘intelligent’ person’s hands.  That is not my responsibility.

To wrap up, it is not bad to live your life not knowing the ‘truth’ ‘intelligent’ people are trying to define.  Form your own beliefs and form your own ‘reality’.  For the ‘intelligentsia’ also formed their own—a world of negativity and lost hope.  If they are able to do that, why shouldn’t you?

I WANT TO SPEAK OUT!

‘Why don’t you look at your _______?  He/She can go through things and shit!  Why couldn’t you?’

Have you ever experience being told like that?  Well, you SHOULD, because you ain’t human if you haven’t experience that yet.

As for me, I can’t help but to cringe in disappointment and annoyance every time I hear those words.  Look at that guy/girl!  He/She is a hell lot better than you are because he/she is going through that hardship without a budge on his/her face. 

Ah…making comparisons, how idiotic!

Do you know that poem ‘Desiderata’?  One stanza says, ‘IF YOU COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS, YOU MAY BECOME VAIN AND BITTER; FOR THERE WILL ALWAYS BE GREATER AND LESSER PEOPLE THAN YOURSELF.’

It means that whatever you do, wherever you go, whoever you socialize with, there will be people who’d be in much better condition in life and there’ll also be some living in more misery than you do.  Those lines also prove that all people are ‘born their way’—that we all have our OWN PATH TO TAKE, OWN PERSONALITIES, AND OWN TROUBLES TO DEAL WITH.  If it is so, then who are we to say to them, ‘Why don’t you look at this fellow?’

My point is, we all have our own identity.  If you don’t know the essence of IDENTITY yet, IDENTITY IS YOUR PERSONALITY, WHICH IS THE ‘SUM OF YOUR OWN BEHAVIOR PLUS YOUR OWN ATTITUDE’.  If you believe that parents raised their children in the way they thought is best for them, then you should accept the fact that every parent in the world raised us in utterly different manner, for your parents are not my parents, and your neighbor’s family is never your family. 

And because we grew up in a separate environment, we developed different ways to deal and accept our weaknesses.  One may find the other person’s problem to be ‘light’ or ‘trivial’ but for that particular individual, it’s already a ‘life or death’ situation.  The same applies with you.  You may think that your heaviest burden is the worst in the world, but I may think of that as ‘nothing’ compared to mine.

Sadly, we often forget that very principle.  We always say, ‘I’m me; I’m myself’, and yet, when it comes to other people, we tend to compare them to our own, or someone else close to us, or people we know.  We become their critics, even if our intent is for that person’s well being.  If so, then you are not being helpful. 

On the final note, I admit that we all have our weaknesses.  If you want to help someone close to you to overcome that weakness of his/hers, then avoid comparing them to other people and to yourself.  His/her story is not YOUR story.  His/her family is never your family.  HIS/HER EXPERIENCE IS DIFFERENT FROM YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE.

"A Child's Laughter"

     Do you ever felt relax when you adhere something?  The feeling that you are at ease as a soothing sensation come to your senses.  The comfort when something which really makes you happy comes through your way. Well, this is a little different.  An odd feeling to say, hearing a child's laughter caught a sense enlightens a path all through its road.

    Everyone has a different field of expertise.  You may not be good in a certain thing yet you excel in something very much.  Don't be upset when you fail, drop or when you fall.  This is part of life's way of teaching .  Those small things that come along during the periods of uncertainty, they must be appreciated no matter what value it arise.  Remember, a person who started from scratch understands how pain really feels.  The small gifts, like a smile from an infant, can surely cure a drought heart.  

     In a day, the moment of sudden boredom do urge a way.  Your companions are busy for there own objective.  Talking to others, making themselves known for the benefit  of there own.  Sometimes, they neglect you.  The only thing that would caught an attention is an infant's bliss.  A noisy argumentation with there playmates.  Running around, bothering others for there joy yet those are the things that come to disturb a silent motion.   It means nothing when you look at them but, as you remember your infant days, are they as happy as those infants?  Some do wish that they were always an infant because they don't think too much.  They just bother to play, eat, and sleep. When you gone old, sometimes you don't play, even don't eat, and much more you don't go to sleep.  Lucky for an infant because wish is always combined with hard work.  For wish don't come true if you don't work it out.

     Seeing a child's laughter makes a sudden difference in a day.  As a good plan turn abolished, when people forgot about you, or simply moving forward for a better change.  It is true that everyone is smart yet not all knows to understand.  People may come and go, change then take-off.  The best way of being known as a family is, though you go up or down there is a place you can return.  Rest and ease for your trouble, even a back-up when your in danger.  Just don't be too cocky because it might slip you away from your family.

     The reason only few do get to be recognized as a true family is because they might easily leave.  The feeling of being  left alone is the precaution to worry.  Don't ever let someone of the family feel that they are forgotten, they might think that you've gone your own way.  A true family understands any type of situation you are in.  Will comfort and support if your aims are for the right path, and would never let your trust be broken.  Fortunately, all family members proves there faith.  That they can risk there own life to save one another.  Maybe nobody else can do it unless your part of the family.

     Let things discover for itself.   Don't ask, don't bother, and don't even comply.  The foundation of a family is molded through a very long time.  It would not be made by a snap of your finger but the trials you've gone together.  Honestly, the sense that has been speculated may  not truly point unto something.  Those words just spilled-out because of A Child's Laughter.

©Thylyt19 1:11 May 25, 2011