Loving Yourself

I know.

It is sometimes embarrassing to talk with other people you don't know, or barely know.

For someone like me who filters' his friends' list on social networking sites, it is not surprising that I don't have many friends.  However, for others, their Facebook accounts maybe overflowing with 'friends' but when reality kicks in, you'd be shock to know that most of those 'friends' barely know you or worse, would throw you the 'Do-I-know-you' look when you meet them on the street.

No.  I'm not here to rant about deep relationships or something in line with that, I'm here to talk about loving yourself, as the title says.

It is easy to declare that you love yourself, in public or in private, outside or inside, whoever and whenever you please.  However what is difficult is its application--the 'action' part.  Why do I say this?  Isn't it a proof that when someone praises you for something that you've done, you would say, 'NO, IT'S UGLY' when you can always say 'Thank you for the appreciation!'?  You want to be humble, or at least appear to be one, but at the cost of bringing down yourself.

Let me tell you one thing.  When you do something with all of your knowledge, give all your efforts, and sometimes even make sacrifices, IT IS NEVER UGLY.  True, it may need improvement, but heck, everything needs improvement--even the art critics has something to criticize about famous masterpieces in the world, or else they won't be a critic!

Another is when you see some of your friends talking to a hell lot of people, jealousy kicks in.  No, not that kind of jealousy where he or she is talking with a beautiful somebody, but the type of jealousy that forms when the question of 'Why is my friend can talk to so much people easily while I am here taking forever to muster courage to even say hello to the waiter?' forms in your mind.

Do you believe that every person is an individual?  Do you believe that each and every one of us has a different personality?  Do you believe that we all have diverse backgrounds and approach to problems?

If your answer is yes to most of the questions above, then you believe that you are different from others who are also different from you and the other person next to you (if any).  Having said that, IT IS NEVER WRONG, NOR BAD TO BE DIFFERENT.  WHAT MAKES THIS WORLD INTERESTING IS THE DIFFERENCE EACH AND EVERY INDIVIDUAL HAS.

Yes we do have weaknesses, but we also have our strengths.  That sociable friend of yours and even that person sitting (or lying, or standing) next to you has his or her share of strengths where you can find help, and weaknesses where you can relate to.  So what if you're embarrassed around others?  If you can't even start a conversation with an utter stranger?  That's the way you are!  If you change yourself, it's your call.  But you're fine as you are, having been able to live from infancy to your present state as you are!  What's wrong with that?  Aren't you glad of your own uniqueness?

My point, aside from the famous beauty is in the eye of its beholder, is that no one would love yourself the most other than yourself.  In the end, you alone is the only one that would remain faithful to you.  Friends and families come and go, either by death or they leave you, but it is utterly impossible for you to leave yourself!  So go out there and start LOVING YOURSELF!